How do i find the one(s)??: more unsolicited advice from mandy to the interwebs

I hear/see things like this from people of all walks of life "Why cant i find that special person(s)?? I would be happy if only i could find that! MUST. FIND.TWUE. LOVE..." Ya know, that kind of crap.
My advice is.... Chill the fuck out.
It's totally cool to want that special someone(s), but don't worry about it... don't fixate on it. When's the last time you heard someone say "I was freakin the fuck out about needing to find someone(s) to fulfill me and POOF there they were!" IDK about you, but i have NEVER heard anything like that. But i sure have heard a bunch of "I wasn't looking for it but then POOF there it was!" or "Once i stopped worrying about it POOF there it was" stories.
I have no idea why it works like that. Depending on your philosophy... maybe it's because you were focused too much on what you didn't have, you missed opportunities for something great just because you couldn't see it. Or maybe your god(s) needed you to trust in the divine plan. Or maybe the universe was telling you you needed to be happy with what you have before it will bless you with more. Take your pick of one of these possibilities, or make up some other shit.... none of us really know why it seems to work like that but it seems to.
I'm not saying give up, or stop working for it. You should be active in finding what you want. Put yourself out there keep yourself open to possibilities... Just don't fixate and fret over it. Try to take an attitude of "I really want this and i will find it someday... until then i am going to be thankful from what i have and work on making myself a better me so i can be even better for that special someone(s) someday." (or similar such bullshit that suites you).
I give similar advice about test taking. Yeah study, do what you need to prepare yourself the best you can... but don't worry about it. Chill the fuck out and it will all come much easier. I started a study group for one of my college courses, a group would meet right before class. We ended up doing little studying but a lot of laughing and bullshitting together. Guess what happened... my classmate that came and enjoyed themselves and chilled the fuck out before class started scoring higher on tests!
The lesson for today is what, kids??...
CHILL THE FUCK OUT! YAAAAAAAAAAAAAY runs in circles flailing
But hey... what the fuck do i know i have never been single a day of my adult life.

They're all bi.... i get it now!

I have come to the conclusion that all the idiots that say being gay is a choice are bisexual.... or maybe gay... but more likely bi. Here's why...
Once upon a time when i was a good-little-christian-bigot (true story it happened... i'm sorry... may the gods forgive me) i wholeheartedly bought into the idea one could choose their sexuality. Why? Because it made absolute sense to a little bi girl! I made the choice (at the time) to be straight. i could be with girls but that was a "sin" and so i chose to only be with boys (ignore all the premarital sex stuff... it's not a sin if it's straight right??). It stands to reason that the people who really buy into this could have made the choice also. I think a truly straight person couldn't really by into the idea that was a choice.
So yeah... Bisexuals. The whole lot of 'em!
states opinion as fact, gives the finger then walks away

The universe has been good to me

My heart is full of love and gratefulness. It seem as if the universe said to me,
"You are only going to have one child. So here is the most beautiful charming amazing little girl I could make.
Your husband left you. So here is a better Man for you, who will help you grow to your full potential and love you unconditionally... you know what... while I am at it, here's another!
You went for years without having friends or being social because you gave everything you were to a person who didn't cherish you. So here is an amazing community and group of friends who will love and accept you just the way you are."
I could go on in all the ways i have been blessed but those things right there... that makes any challenges i might face fade way. Health issue, struggles with money, anxiety, judgment from the world for being different... none of it matter because i have been so greatly blessed. And in the times i start to let the crap get to me, i always have one or any number to people there to support me. I have been blessed to have so many beautiful souls come into my life.
Fuck car and houses and all that material bullshit... I am a rich woman!
I just hope i can give back, even just some, of the richness that i have been blessed with.